Kids say the darndest things!

Wow I get up in the morning ready for a wonderful day and the first thing I hear is " I'm only 8 I shouldn't have to help with laundry or do the dishes, I'm to young I shouldn't have to do anything!". Seriously?I was doing laundry and dishes at 7 and if they didn't get done right I rewashed the entire cabinet.

So here is what i did... I sat down my 8 yr old daughter (Carley) and gave her a time out like a 5 yr old. I told her that if she thought she wasn't old enough to do the things she does then why did she bounce like a puppy after bacon and ask to be a 'big kid"? She looked at me like I was crazy and shrugged her shoulders. Yes I may be crazy but I think that if a person no matter what size, is capable of doing things then they should do them. No matter how small we should face our fears and our obstacles with an open mind. I don't make the kids do all the house work but they can help! They help dirty the house and clothes they can take clothes out of the washer and put them in the dryer and bring the clothes to me to be folded. They can do dishes and put them away, they can clean their own rooms. These are simple little things that make them realize how much mom actually does in a day. because when they are in school I do it all!

Now Carley has put her clothes away, dried the dishes and vacuumed the floor today with no problems what so ever. So why is she to young? why should I be so easy on her when everyone else in the house does their share? Because she is the baby and she thinks she should get away with murder and we should praise her for it! So not happening!! I was the baby too and I didn't get special privileges. I got what everyone else did. Two working parents stuck at home with a crazy grouchy grandma who always made us go to our rooms. We had to have imaginations and we had to learn to deal with the crap that the "old people" put on us. Now I get to be that "old person" and I realize that most of the stuff that my parents did was good for me.

Now it's my turn and I am trying to do for my children what my parents missed in us. We were to be seen and not heard or not seen at all. I love my kids and I want them to have an imagination so I let them do as much as possible but I do not let them slide on doing their chores and I do not buy them everything they want just because they throw a fit. I don't give in and the more they cry the longer they get grounded for. It drives me crazy when people give in because they don't want to deal with their kids! Why do you have kids if you don't want to deal with them? Use a condom, birth control, or just don't have sex! Don't do it just because everyone else is doing it. Think about someone other than yourself and realize that they didn't ask to be here and the way you raise them determines the person they will be when they grow up to be your age!

Okay I'm done ranting for now. Crazy as I am I do have chores of my own to do ;0) Have a wonderful day!

Back in action

Ok soooo I know it's been a while since I've posted anything on here. The thing is we have been working through a lot of stuff. Harry got a new job and he is no longer up my ass 24/7. Now we actually have conversation that do not involve arguing and we enjoy seeing each other because he's never here. With it being summer I have been doing as much as I can with the kids and trying to pound it into their heads that somebody has to clean up after them it might as well be them! ;0) Every time I have to pick up something of theirs I make them clean all day. I know I am a mom I am supposed to pick up after my kids blah blah blah! UM NO I refuse to raise lazy kids who want nothing more than to live at home with mommy for the rest of their lives because she does it all. They will be self sufficient and clean hard working people when I'm done with them because that's what will get them the farthest when the are old enough to do it on their own. I love my children with all my heart and I can't imagine them growing up and not having the know how or the want to do for themselves. I want them to be self motivated people who do without asking 'What do I do now?". Don't get me wrong I tell them every chance I get not to grow up to fast. I make sure they know that once they get to a certain point that there is no turning back. I tell them to have fun, play, be idiots and enjoy every stinking minute of it because once your my age and you do things like that people look at you like you've lost your damn mind! I do as much as I can with my kids which isn't much because every time I do something with them I hurt myself, lol. The last thing I did was TRY to go down the slip-n-slide yeah that ended well! One broken tailbone and a month of healing later I still have to sit a certain way to make sure the pain doesn't flare up. It was fun though I loved every minute of it and the looks on their faces when I did it! Ok I am going to save some for later because I am rambling now. Have a wonderful day all! Hope to c-ya soon ;0)